Nguyễn Quỳnh Mai
(mo912)
New Member
To myself:
There's nothing better than belonging to a great group of friends and nothing worse than feeling like an outcast.Friends are really important but should never become ur center.Why? Well, occasionally they're fickle.Now and then they're fake.Sometimes they talk behind ur back or develop new friendship and forget yours.They have mood swings.They move.
In addition, if you base ur indentity on having friends, being accepted, and being popular, you may find yourself compromising ur standards or changing them every weeekend to accomodate your friends.
And about ur bf, this is the easiest trap of all to fall into.The ironic thing is that the more you center ur life on someone, the more unattractive you become to that person.How's that?Well, first of all, if you center ur lìe on him, you're no longer hard to get.Second, it's iritating when you builds ur entire life around him, which leads to thóe sickening "where do we stand" talks.
You can easily tell you both have centered on each other because you are forever breaking up and getting back together.Although ur relationship has deteriorated, ur emotional lives and identities are so intertwined that you can never let go of each other.
Proactive or reactive?The choices is yours.
Reactive ppl make choices based on impulse.They are like a can of sodapop.If life shakes them a bit, the pressure builds and then they suddenly explode.
Proactive ppl make choices based on values.They think before they act.They recognize they can't control everything that happens to them, but they can control what they do about it.Unlike reactive ppl who are full of carbonation, proactive ppl are like water.Shake them up all you want, take off the lid, and nothing.No fizzing, no bubbling, no pressure.They are calm, cool, and in control.
What a powerful influence friends can have on ur attitude, reputation, and direction.The need to be accepted and be a part of a group is powerful.But too often you choose your friends based on whoever will accept us.And that's not always good.
Another thing to watch out for is when you've made a mistake or three and feel so bad about what you've done that you say to yourself "It's all over.I've blown it.Who cares what happens now?".At this point you'll often begin to self-destruct and let it all hang out.Let me just say this.It's never over.If you've made mistakes, you're normal.Everybody have.Just get ur head screwed on straight as quickly as you can and you'll be OK.
-7 habits-
The day has come when friends are not the biggest thing in my life.Several months before, I had a fabulous group of friends, and I did care for them, did whatever I could to help them or make them happy.I just thought that I was the happiest girl in the world, with friends to share the whole world.And then guess what happened? How hard it is to prognosticate what would happen in the future or else how disappointed I was to become a jerk in my so-called beloved friends' point of view.I had flabbergasted to see the way they treated me. Of course, there are just a tinge of friends that changed but also afflict a lot.They did talk behind my back, bad-mouth or make rumors around me.At first, it was hard to stand, my inherent perceptions to things were just getting worse and worse.Those friends didn't try to understand or feel any sympathy, they talked about my life, my own things without knowing that they were oblivious the walking wounded-Me.I strived to let it all out, revolved around having my high school from scratch.Still now they thought and hold a paradigms that I've changed a lot, everything ppl talk is true, or at least I don't care about them.I regret how easygoing I was to make friends with that kinds of ppl.Why couldn't you guys just for the one time see my life through my glass?They always believed that they were right, and for some reasons, what they see is what they get.They believed I was vicious and lousy, or even lewd (8-}), that belief would help them search for evidence to support their belief, even making up that evidence.They quickly judged, label, or form rigid opinions of me.They made conclusions about me without knowing me,and I can't stand it when i'm unfairly judged by someone who doesn't know a thing about me.That's often the way it is.
And on the other hand, I live for myself,not to satisfy all around me.
"You got ur passion, you got ur pride
Don't you know that only fools are satisfied
Dream on but don't imagine they all come true.."
It takes a lot time for me to realize trying to make everybody else happy was a big mistake.The time has come to be true to myself, stop chasing dreams made for sombody else.
Time for dinner, and I hope I won't waste more time complaining about somebody that hurts me a lot.Because now you're nothing to me, meaningless and an unstable foundation.
I'm proud of myself, of what I've done to my life and my true friends.I consider bad friends such a group of turnoff to me.My confidence comes from within, not from without,from the quality of heart,not from the quantity of things.
Now I feel even happier than me-a sophomore last year with a lot of uncategorized friends.I realize what to prioritize, to focus or learn how to neatly categorize complex friends.
I love U, people that had,have, will have stood here beside me, ready to give me a hug and build me up :x :x :x..
There's nothing better than belonging to a great group of friends and nothing worse than feeling like an outcast.Friends are really important but should never become ur center.Why? Well, occasionally they're fickle.Now and then they're fake.Sometimes they talk behind ur back or develop new friendship and forget yours.They have mood swings.They move.
In addition, if you base ur indentity on having friends, being accepted, and being popular, you may find yourself compromising ur standards or changing them every weeekend to accomodate your friends.
And about ur bf, this is the easiest trap of all to fall into.The ironic thing is that the more you center ur life on someone, the more unattractive you become to that person.How's that?Well, first of all, if you center ur lìe on him, you're no longer hard to get.Second, it's iritating when you builds ur entire life around him, which leads to thóe sickening "where do we stand" talks.
You can easily tell you both have centered on each other because you are forever breaking up and getting back together.Although ur relationship has deteriorated, ur emotional lives and identities are so intertwined that you can never let go of each other.
Proactive or reactive?The choices is yours.
Reactive ppl make choices based on impulse.They are like a can of sodapop.If life shakes them a bit, the pressure builds and then they suddenly explode.
Proactive ppl make choices based on values.They think before they act.They recognize they can't control everything that happens to them, but they can control what they do about it.Unlike reactive ppl who are full of carbonation, proactive ppl are like water.Shake them up all you want, take off the lid, and nothing.No fizzing, no bubbling, no pressure.They are calm, cool, and in control.
What a powerful influence friends can have on ur attitude, reputation, and direction.The need to be accepted and be a part of a group is powerful.But too often you choose your friends based on whoever will accept us.And that's not always good.
Another thing to watch out for is when you've made a mistake or three and feel so bad about what you've done that you say to yourself "It's all over.I've blown it.Who cares what happens now?".At this point you'll often begin to self-destruct and let it all hang out.Let me just say this.It's never over.If you've made mistakes, you're normal.Everybody have.Just get ur head screwed on straight as quickly as you can and you'll be OK.
-7 habits-
The day has come when friends are not the biggest thing in my life.Several months before, I had a fabulous group of friends, and I did care for them, did whatever I could to help them or make them happy.I just thought that I was the happiest girl in the world, with friends to share the whole world.And then guess what happened? How hard it is to prognosticate what would happen in the future or else how disappointed I was to become a jerk in my so-called beloved friends' point of view.I had flabbergasted to see the way they treated me. Of course, there are just a tinge of friends that changed but also afflict a lot.They did talk behind my back, bad-mouth or make rumors around me.At first, it was hard to stand, my inherent perceptions to things were just getting worse and worse.Those friends didn't try to understand or feel any sympathy, they talked about my life, my own things without knowing that they were oblivious the walking wounded-Me.I strived to let it all out, revolved around having my high school from scratch.Still now they thought and hold a paradigms that I've changed a lot, everything ppl talk is true, or at least I don't care about them.I regret how easygoing I was to make friends with that kinds of ppl.Why couldn't you guys just for the one time see my life through my glass?They always believed that they were right, and for some reasons, what they see is what they get.They believed I was vicious and lousy, or even lewd (8-}), that belief would help them search for evidence to support their belief, even making up that evidence.They quickly judged, label, or form rigid opinions of me.They made conclusions about me without knowing me,and I can't stand it when i'm unfairly judged by someone who doesn't know a thing about me.That's often the way it is.
And on the other hand, I live for myself,not to satisfy all around me.
"You got ur passion, you got ur pride
Don't you know that only fools are satisfied
Dream on but don't imagine they all come true.."
It takes a lot time for me to realize trying to make everybody else happy was a big mistake.The time has come to be true to myself, stop chasing dreams made for sombody else.
Time for dinner, and I hope I won't waste more time complaining about somebody that hurts me a lot.Because now you're nothing to me, meaningless and an unstable foundation.
I'm proud of myself, of what I've done to my life and my true friends.I consider bad friends such a group of turnoff to me.My confidence comes from within, not from without,from the quality of heart,not from the quantity of things.
Now I feel even happier than me-a sophomore last year with a lot of uncategorized friends.I realize what to prioritize, to focus or learn how to neatly categorize complex friends.
I love U, people that had,have, will have stood here beside me, ready to give me a hug and build me up :x :x :x..
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