Le Thanh Khoa
(Khoa Le)
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- We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us, they will react and behave in certain way,the ways we react and behave when we love someone.
- We can say that men and women now are living in the same planet, but they came from different planet and had the different languages. That languages have the same words, but the way they were used give different meanings.
- A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results...---> to offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own.
- A woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.
- When women and men have face problem:
--> To feel better, men go to their caves( private places) to solve problems alone....---> Never go into a man's cave or you will be burned by the dragon who protect the cave.
When a man is in a negative state, treat him like a passing tornado and LIE low....--> dont' try to change hime or make him wrong at that time.
--> To feel better, women get together and openly talk about their problems.
A NOTE men should work at is to remember that women's complainng about problems doesn't mean blaming, it's only just letting go of her fresstrations by talking about them.
- Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.
- Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed.---> not to be needed is a slow death for a man.
- Men rarely say "I'm sorry" because in his planet where he came from, it means that you have done something wrong and you are apologizing.
- Women, however, say "I'm sory" as a way to say " I care about what you are feeling".
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Too much caring is smothering
The closer we are to someone, the easier it í to bruise or be bruised.
- We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us, they will react and behave in certain way,the ways we react and behave when we love someone.
- We can say that men and women now are living in the same planet, but they came from different planet and had the different languages. That languages have the same words, but the way they were used give different meanings.
- A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results...---> to offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own.
- A woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.
- When women and men have face problem:
--> To feel better, men go to their caves( private places) to solve problems alone....---> Never go into a man's cave or you will be burned by the dragon who protect the cave.
When a man is in a negative state, treat him like a passing tornado and LIE low....--> dont' try to change hime or make him wrong at that time.
--> To feel better, women get together and openly talk about their problems.
A NOTE men should work at is to remember that women's complainng about problems doesn't mean blaming, it's only just letting go of her fresstrations by talking about them.
- Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.
- Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed.---> not to be needed is a slow death for a man.
- Men rarely say "I'm sorry" because in his planet where he came from, it means that you have done something wrong and you are apologizing.
- Women, however, say "I'm sory" as a way to say " I care about what you are feeling".
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Too much caring is smothering
The closer we are to someone, the easier it í to bruise or be bruised.