Đặng Hoàng Vũ
(Heyi)
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It has been going on for quite a while, showing itself here and there in these boards. And no, it is not the pneumonia thingy that set the world on red alert. Its name is also SARS, however, it stands for
Self Aggravating Romanticization Syndrome
Its existence is evident in many threads, most of which lie in the "Tâm sự vui buồn" section of the forum. However, "spontaneous manifestations" of this weird syndrome can be found practically everywhere; and there are signs that it has begun to spread out. You all know what I mean...
In all seriousness, sometimes it makes me wonder whether our girls (and the boys too, but from now on I'll use "she/her" just for compactness - no discrimination though
) have nothing better to do, or no other ways to come to terms with their own emotions. It does not make sense when someone "cries her heart out" to all kinds of strangers on the web, then describes herself as an introvert!!! ("sống nội tâm" - I cannot find a better English word). It is totally ridiculous and artificial that someone just 15-18 years old must writhe in agony everytime she breaks up with her boy. I do not say that it never happens, but it cannot happen to everyone.
This world is NOT just made of Romeos and Juliets, not all people are love-maniacs. Love (or whatever they thought was love) is not everything, maybe not even one of the major things that matters to them. Inside, most of them know that is true, and that they could easily move on without a flinch. However, they do not want to admit it. They would rather think of themselves as damsels in distress, emotional people whose souls are as fragile as [whatever corny thing they can think of]. They dismiss the thought of themselves being happy as cold and unemotional, and would rather lick their own imaginary wounds all day, feeding on their made-up misery to be "romantic" and "cool".
Yes, you read that right. All of this just boils down to "coolness". Not the kind of coolness that comes with branded clothes, hi-tech gadget or sexy music. This one probably comes from cheesy Korean/Taiwan/whatever films, tasteless teen books/magazines ("Hoa học trò" and the likes), teary shoujo mangas, and most of all an over-zealous obsession of romantic novels. Once it has become a fashionable
thing, the girl just cannot stand being less romantic/emotional than her friends. That might explain why there are so many self-proclaimed introverts making themselves look miserable in front of everybody these days.
Those are my observations, feel free to agree or disagree. But before you lash out on what I wrote, I have one thing to set straight: I do NOT have any problems with people being emotional, or if they share their true feelings with others. But there are so many people doing this that it seems most of them are overacting, whether on purpose or not.
A simple analogy: it's good to see a genius once in a while; but if 30 guys in a class all act like future Nobelists, you know 29 of them has to be braggarts.
P.S. I seem to have too much time on my hands to write all this, with the exams coming Well I guess there are things so annoying that you just HAVE to speak out :mrgreen:
Self Aggravating Romanticization Syndrome
Its existence is evident in many threads, most of which lie in the "Tâm sự vui buồn" section of the forum. However, "spontaneous manifestations" of this weird syndrome can be found practically everywhere; and there are signs that it has begun to spread out. You all know what I mean...
In all seriousness, sometimes it makes me wonder whether our girls (and the boys too, but from now on I'll use "she/her" just for compactness - no discrimination though
) have nothing better to do, or no other ways to come to terms with their own emotions. It does not make sense when someone "cries her heart out" to all kinds of strangers on the web, then describes herself as an introvert!!! ("sống nội tâm" - I cannot find a better English word). It is totally ridiculous and artificial that someone just 15-18 years old must writhe in agony everytime she breaks up with her boy. I do not say that it never happens, but it cannot happen to everyone. This world is NOT just made of Romeos and Juliets, not all people are love-maniacs. Love (or whatever they thought was love) is not everything, maybe not even one of the major things that matters to them. Inside, most of them know that is true, and that they could easily move on without a flinch. However, they do not want to admit it. They would rather think of themselves as damsels in distress, emotional people whose souls are as fragile as [whatever corny thing they can think of]. They dismiss the thought of themselves being happy as cold and unemotional, and would rather lick their own imaginary wounds all day, feeding on their made-up misery to be "romantic" and "cool".
Yes, you read that right. All of this just boils down to "coolness". Not the kind of coolness that comes with branded clothes, hi-tech gadget or sexy music. This one probably comes from cheesy Korean/Taiwan/whatever films, tasteless teen books/magazines ("Hoa học trò" and the likes), teary shoujo mangas, and most of all an over-zealous obsession of romantic novels. Once it has become a fashionable
thing, the girl just cannot stand being less romantic/emotional than her friends. That might explain why there are so many self-proclaimed introverts making themselves look miserable in front of everybody these days.
Those are my observations, feel free to agree or disagree. But before you lash out on what I wrote, I have one thing to set straight: I do NOT have any problems with people being emotional, or if they share their true feelings with others. But there are so many people doing this that it seems most of them are overacting, whether on purpose or not.
A simple analogy: it's good to see a genius once in a while; but if 30 guys in a class all act like future Nobelists, you know 29 of them has to be braggarts.
P.S. I seem to have too much time on my hands to write all this, with the exams coming
Well I guess there are things so annoying that you just HAVE to speak out :mrgreen:
